"You Were Right" (And Four Other Things You Should Start Saying)
You were right. This is a phrase we should use more often. There are four more phrases we should say more frequently. Why? Because saying them will help your relationships. We cover all of these on today's show. This is day eight in the ten days of success. Season 2 Show 31 Episode 153
Here are five of those phrases and reasons why we should use them more often.
"You were right."
This phrase is almost never spoken in business. Most business leaders have an overwhelming need to be right. When they aren't, they never admit it. So it is not surprising that when people are right, nobody gives them credit.
This matters because if you want to grow a relationship with someone, you need to suspend the need to be right all the time. If a person makes a mistake in a statement or when working with you, and the mistake has no consequences, just let it go.
"I don't know."
People are afraid to say this because they fear they will look stupid. What usually happens is you make up an answer when you don't really know. Then you not only look stupid, you look dishonest.
Say "I don't know, but I will find out," and you'll look smart and resourceful.
This is one that you'll never hear from a tough guy. Politicians, business leaders, and your parents will never, ever say "I'm sorry," because they think it makes them look weak.
The truth is that failing to apologize is what makes you look weak.
Strong, confident people admit when they are wrong. People who value relationships admit when they are wrong. We are all human. We all make mistakes. Admit your mistake, apologize, and get past it.
I'm not sure when we stopped expressing gratitude. As kids, our parents taught us to be grateful for everything from someone passing the salt, to someone giving us a check for a holiday. But once we became an adult, we immediately stopped this behavior.
Always find a way to express gratitude to people who provide a product or service or to people who simply express kindness.
"I like you."
Everyone in the world is under recognized. People are so caught up in their own lives, they never take time to tell others how they feel. Reach out to a friend today and let him know you like him. You'll make his day and you'll feel good about yourself in the process.
Your words can help you stand out from the crowd. Use these today and you'll see what a difference they can make.
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In response to the events surrounding the Coronavirus pandemic, I have created a new community of professionals. I’m calling it the “Inner Circle.” The purpose of this group is to deliver great business growth information, provide support and camaraderie, and have a group of trusted sources, across the country, to refer business to and receive business from.
The group is in its infancy, (started in March) but we’ve already seen some fantastic results. One of our members passed a transactional matter to another member that resulted in an $18,000 fixed fee. Two other members have passed referrals that resulted in significant retainers.
This is not a referral service or a leads group. This is a community of attorneys, CPAs, architects, engineers and other professional service providers from multiple states and jurisdictions. We hold virtual education sessions on Tuesdays and Thursdays and a virtual happy hour on Fridays. None of the meetings are mandatory. All of the education sessions are recorded, and members have access to them 24/7.
Since this opportunity is brand new, the investment is small. You can invest $147 per month or $1,047 per year. The annual investment is a savings of $717.
This is the perfect opportunity for you to meet new people and continue your professional development. I’m certain there will be significant opportunity for you.
I’ve set up a special invitation page for a handful of people – like you – to review and enroll. You can find the info here:
Last month I enrolled an attorney from Mexico, and he connected a litigator in New York with a case that will most likely help him get through the crisis this summer. I am thrilled that I can provide this kind of value.
Please let me know if you’ll join us. If not, maybe you can connect me with some folks you trust, and I can interview them for membership…
Also let me know if I can be of any assistance during these difficult times.